Who would like to be married? I believe this is something we grew up with as little girls – the perfect marriage with a prince that would save us. It might be because of all the Disney cartoons we watched or because this is what we were told to dream.
Don’t get me wrong there is nothing bad with wanting to be married and calling your husband your prince (KING 😊) the wrong is in the placing marriage – or your husband above God and making it your idol.
Exodus 20:3 (KJV) Thou shalt have no other gods before me.
Luke 10:27 (KJV) And he answering said, Thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy strength, and with all thy mind; and thy neighbour as thyself.
God should be first in your life and your desires should be the desires God has for your life. Is this always easy? NO!
I remember when I made the mistake of making marriage an Idol and my then boyfriend a god. My desire was so strong that I did not even care if this was not God’s will for my life. I would actually pray and cry out to God often times, trying to manipulate God’s will for me and give me my want. I wanted to be married to this wordly man and did not want to take NO for an answer. No I would pray and pray and cry for God to change him and to make him a true follower of God so that I could get my will of marriage with a man in Christ. Writing this right now really brings forward – to myself how selfish and lost I was at the time.
I’m happy God did not listen to my childish tamdrums at the time, praise the Lord Almighty.
I learned allot from that time and God truly turned around anything meant for bad for my good. I’m happy with the constant care of my Heavenly Father and God not allowing me to nag myself into my want, when that was clearly not his best plan for me. God is good and his plans for our lives the best.
Matthew 7:11 (KJV) If ye then, being evil, know how to give good gifts unto your children, how much more shall your Father which is in heaven give good things to them that ask him?
My root problem had always been that I had looked for my value in men and thus wanted marriage – to be valued. I knew that this man was not the one for me, he did not bring me closer to God rather further away. Yet I still wanted to marry him because that to me at the time would make me feel valued.
Last week I woke up thinking about marriage. I have been single now for 2.5 years which has been such a blessing. As I woke up with the thought of marriage I spoke to God immediately and said – ooh no God I don’t want to be that old Romy again. Please help me keep YOU IN first place and don’t allow me to make marriage an idol again. I don’t want to fail you Lord. I don’t want to start to think about a man and with that moving away from you again. God help me please! It’s then that God spoke to me and said: Romy -remember, NO man has done for you what Jesus has done for you and no man on earth ever will, never forget that. Keep that close to your heart and you will be good. I did not give you a spirit of fear but of love and a sound mind.
2 Timothy 1:7 (Kjv) For God hath not given us the spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind.
Romans 5:7-9 (NKJV) For scarcely for a righteous man will one die; yet perhaps for a good man someone would even dare to die. But God demonstrates His own love toward us, in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us. Much more then, having now been justified by His blood, we shall be saved from wrath through Him.
There will never be a greater love than the love God has for us, no matter how much people on this earth might love us. People can love us better yes; when they have God’s love for us flowing through them. But it still will never reach the perfect love Jesus had for us when he willingly went on that cross while he knew we would sin again.
Jesus went on that cross anyway, even for the people that put him on that cross. Jesus did not get mad, NO HE asked his father, even through all the pain – forgive them Father please for they do not know what they have done. WAW, nails in his hands and feet, beaten beyond recognition and yet he asked for their forgiveness while they were not even sorry yet for their sins committed towards him. We should never forget this love, we should hold this close to our hearts when the troubles of the world Surround us and when our own sins get the best of us. We should never place anything above God because he did not place any of our sins above us, no he gave his only Son so that we receive mercy and grace and can be saved ❤️❤️❤️
We should want marriage for the glory of God, to advance his kingdom. To be a living testimony of God’s love for us, to show the lost the love God has for us. Do you know how powerful a Christ centered marriage is? Look at this: one can impact a 1,000 however two might impact 10,000 and when two on earth agree together in Christ that is extremely powerful. I don’t know about you but for me I don’t want an ordinary marriage, no I want a Christ centered marriage because there are many people in this world that have no clue how much God truly loves them. Waiting on God is not a burden, no it’s an honor to wait for his perfect will and husband.
Deuteronomy 32:30 (KJV) How should one chase a thousand, and two put ten thousand to flight, except their Rock had sold them, and the Lord had shut them up?
Matthew 18:19 (KJV) Again I say unto you, That if two of you shall agree on earth as touching any thing that they shall ask, it shall be done for them of my Father which is in heaven.
Let me ask you, would you like to have a relationship with God, Jesus and the Holy Spirit? YES???? Okay Praise the Lord. Let’s start with – Did you accept Jesus as your Lord and Saviour in your life? Let me tell you since I did life has been an amazing Journey – not easy but surely the best ever. You say you are not perfect and committed to many sins? Read this post again on how Jesus forgave the people that sent him to the cross, believe me God loves you and is waiting for you with open arms. Want to accept Jesus but don’t know how? Write me, I would be happy to pray with you. Savedandblessed.blog.romy@gmail.com
Remember God loves you much❤️
Saludos Romy Ras
As a single myself, I really love this post. Sometimes, I feel like “why is this whole thing taking forever?!!!!”, and yet at the same time I am quite content as I am at the moment. Waiting seems painful though but at the same time, spending time with God is also very satisfying. It’s kind of like you know you feel lonely, and yet at the same time, knowing that you have God on your side you also feel complete. I don’t know if I’m making any sense but yeah, that’s the way I feel so I can empathize with everything that you’ve just said here. Being single is a blessing, and yet at the same time we hope that God is able to bless us with our significant other to join our journey through life.
Stay blessed hun.
Sherline. 😀
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Hi Sherline, I understand exactly what you mean. I believe this will make us so much more grateful when Our Father finally reveals our husband to us 😊 thank you for reading my post and your kind comment. May God bless your journey with your expected hope completed at the right time.
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Marriage is strictly God’s business. To have a successful conjugal relationship God must be involved, one full hundred percent. Marriage, I’ve always maintained, should take place only between Christians. The first couple, our pristine parents were God’s son and daughter. Dear savedandblessed lady, you’re bulls’-eye correct to advocate ‘waiting on the Lord’ for a fruitful marriage. Great care must be taken in the choice of a marriage partner. There’ll be many offers. God chose the dust for a good reason.
I believe the woman especially should be more careful. Men can be dangerous. Thank God we have a good friend in Jesus, the way, truth and the life of every venture. He assures in Jeremiah 29:11, “For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, saith the LORD, thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you an expected end.” Yes, the LORD our God does all things well. Praise the Lord. Thank you for this post. May it heal wounds. Amen!
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Thank you for your detailed comment I really appreciate it. May God bless your day.
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Thank you for your support I really appreciate it. May God bless you.
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Anytime, bless you too.
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Being single, myself, I feel like being forsaken of the bliss of being in a relationship… But it’s true that one should wait for what God has planned.😊
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Thank you for reading, I know exactly what you mean. However waiting on the Lord is the best thing we can do. I know that I can’t trust my heart with this but I sure can trust God, he made us and knows exactly what we need. I actually still have some areas I need to work on and I can during this single season. God is truly amazing and his timing perfect. May the Lord bless you.
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Thank you so much, I will surrender it all to Him. The right one will come along 😊❤
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Yes he will, trust God.
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You really took me to church on this one. I agree about your statements and your verses from the Bible about marriage. thank you for posting this on your blog..
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You are very welcome. God is amazing and I’m happy that he uses my journey to bless others. Stay blessed.
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I’ve been through some bad situations and only with God’s grace I survived… I am a standing testimony..
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Amen, share your testimony it might help somebody else find God or give them strength to keep going in God. Use it to be a blessing to others and it will help you with your healing as well. Share share share 😊
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I do….I put it in poetry form… A lot of my situations are on my blog in my poems..
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Very nice, I love poems. Keep up the good work.
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This is a poem that’s up on my blog right now….
My faith has led me to places I thought was only in my imagination. Faith has led me to explore my education. My faith has led me to use the spoken word to reach others. My poetry sisters and brothers..My faith has allowed me to stand up in front of an audience and be myself to share my inner wealth. No matter if people try to discourage me. I walk by faith and not by sight…Freedom to be oneself is my fight. Believe it achieve it.. Have faith in you and all the amazing things you do
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Awesome post. God gives us the desires of our heart, but we must earnestly seek him and put him first. When we seek him, all things will be added to us. Thank you Lord. #keepwriting
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Yes seeking him is so important and we need his help with this, daily. Thank you for reading that piece, may the Lord bless your journey.
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Amen. Matthew 18:19. You are welcome. Bless you as well. 💟
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Amen, when to agree I love that verse 😊
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