Losing your Grandmother

Today we will bury My Grandmother who passed away on Tuesday December 27, 2016, who I love very much. 

I’m writing this post to show how God can change life and people. 

During my grandmother’s life I was not one of her favorite grand children. She would always prefer her other grand children. I once was told the reason to be because my mother is Dutch and not a native from the Island, I don’t know if this is true.  My grandmother would often speak bad things of my father and would not show much respect towards him. He did have his ways I’m not saying he did not. With this she also preferred her other two sons. My father would get mad, however never stopped to love his mother. I on the other hand would just ignore her completely, especially when she started to treat my children in a mean way. I would just stay away from her as much as possible, this included Christmas, birthdays and so on. If I would visit my fathers house, I would often ignore her and sit in another room. I would talk to her occasionally  but only to please my father. 

My grandmother Health started to go down hill about 3 years ago, gradiually. She lived with my father but was not happy about this. She would often say: I want to live far away from you, leave me alone but my father would live with her anyway. 

The past year her health really started to take a toll on her and she could not take care of her self anymore. My dad changed his entire life to be able to take care of his mother. My father was the one that was with her every day, not no nurses or old home – no my father with his wife took care of my grandmother daily. He would take her out of bed, bathe her, attend to her wounds, bring her to the hospital time and time again, doctors visits, first aids in the middle of the night, bring her back to bed, clothe her, clean her and so on and on. 

My father does not believe in God yet but my father showed that he did everything God would of expect from a son. I can tell you that God showed me that  1 Corinthians 7:13-14 is true in his life, my father’s second wife is a believer who goes to church and reads her bible daily:

And the woman which hath an husband that believeth not, and if he be pleased to dwell with her, let her not leave him.

For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband: else were your children unclean; but now are they holy.
Words can’t express how proud I am of my father, he surpassed any expectation I could ever have of him and I know his strength comes from God. 

The past few months my grandmother changed and her love for my father grew tremendously. Of course she loved her son before but now you could see the change in her eyes. Her love for me changed as well to were she was now asking to see me and whenever I went to see her she would ask me to pray over her. I would talk to her about God, bible story and play a gospel song we would talk about Jesus and life. I asked her if she had accepted Jesus in her life and she said she had a long time ago. I asked her if she believed he died for her sins and was risen after 3 days by God, she said yes. This is all God and nothing of my own because I would of been to stubborn to do all that. God truly changes people hearts and I’m talking mostly about my own hearth here. Praise the Lord. 

My grandmother told me that she knows that my father loves her very much, that she thanks God for my father as son and that she wants my father to believe in God. I told her not to worry, that my father would believe – we both agreed that day. My grandmother told me how much she loves my father and how much she loves me. That she wants good things for us. 

On December 27 my father let me know she had died, I went to the hospital and found my father there broken. He was with her during her last breaths. 

Even then the love my father has for his mother moved him to go take care of the arrangements of her funeral. With every step he took he would ask: this is how my mother would want this right, these are the colors she likes right and so on. Thinking only about what his mother would want. I am happy that me and his wife walked next to him all of these days because my father has been a true walking example of Love. 

The funeral will be in a couple of hours, I pray that God gives me the strength to be the pilar my father needs. 

Sometimes we see the people that hurt us as our enemies, forgetting that hurt people hurt people. Forgetting that the people themselves are not our enemies. The devil is our enemy. We should separate the actions and sins of people from the people, if not the enemy will use it to steal, kill and destroy:  John 10:10. 

God is  faithful, he made sure that our family made things in order right on time, praise the Lord. 

Remember all of us sin, only Jesus lived without sin. 

Are we going to allow sin to destroy families or are we going to live as God commands us to live? 

Mark 12:30-31 (KJV) And thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy mind, and with all thy strength: this is the first commandment.

And the second is like, namely this, Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself. There is none other commandment greater than these.
I believe God wanted me to write this to help somebody or some family, I’m not looking for pitty or praise but just to obey God and help someone. I know that anything meant for bad God can turn to good for those that love him. 

Genesis 50:20 (KJV) But as for you, ye thought evil against me; but God meant it unto good, to bring to pass, as it is this day, to save much people alive.

Remember, 

God loves you much❤️

Saludos Romy Ras

( The flowers in the picture are Tulips, my grandmother fell in love with tulips during her visits to Holland during her life 😊)