Today we will bury My Grandmother who passed away on Tuesday December 27, 2016, who I love very much.
I’m writing this post to show how God can change life and people.
During my grandmother’s life I was not one of her favorite grand children. She would always prefer her other grand children. I once was told the reason to be because my mother is Dutch and not a native from the Island, I don’t know if this is true. My grandmother would often speak bad things of my father and would not show much respect towards him. He did have his ways I’m not saying he did not. With this she also preferred her other two sons. My father would get mad, however never stopped to love his mother. I on the other hand would just ignore her completely, especially when she started to treat my children in a mean way. I would just stay away from her as much as possible, this included Christmas, birthdays and so on. If I would visit my fathers house, I would often ignore her and sit in another room. I would talk to her occasionally but only to please my father.
My grandmother Health started to go down hill about 3 years ago, gradiually. She lived with my father but was not happy about this. She would often say: I want to live far away from you, leave me alone but my father would live with her anyway.
The past year her health really started to take a toll on her and she could not take care of her self anymore. My dad changed his entire life to be able to take care of his mother. My father was the one that was with her every day, not no nurses or old home – no my father with his wife took care of my grandmother daily. He would take her out of bed, bathe her, attend to her wounds, bring her to the hospital time and time again, doctors visits, first aids in the middle of the night, bring her back to bed, clothe her, clean her and so on and on.
My father does not believe in God yet but my father showed that he did everything God would of expect from a son. I can tell you that God showed me that 1 Corinthians 7:13-14 is true in his life, my father’s second wife is a believer who goes to church and reads her bible daily:
And the woman which hath an husband that believeth not, and if he be pleased to dwell with her, let her not leave him.
For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband: else were your children unclean; but now are they holy.
Words can’t express how proud I am of my father, he surpassed any expectation I could ever have of him and I know his strength comes from God.
The past few months my grandmother changed and her love for my father grew tremendously. Of course she loved her son before but now you could see the change in her eyes. Her love for me changed as well to were she was now asking to see me and whenever I went to see her she would ask me to pray over her. I would talk to her about God, bible story and play a gospel song we would talk about Jesus and life. I asked her if she had accepted Jesus in her life and she said she had a long time ago. I asked her if she believed he died for her sins and was risen after 3 days by God, she said yes. This is all God and nothing of my own because I would of been to stubborn to do all that. God truly changes people hearts and I’m talking mostly about my own hearth here. Praise the Lord.
My grandmother told me that she knows that my father loves her very much, that she thanks God for my father as son and that she wants my father to believe in God. I told her not to worry, that my father would believe – we both agreed that day. My grandmother told me how much she loves my father and how much she loves me. That she wants good things for us.
On December 27 my father let me know she had died, I went to the hospital and found my father there broken. He was with her during her last breaths.
Even then the love my father has for his mother moved him to go take care of the arrangements of her funeral. With every step he took he would ask: this is how my mother would want this right, these are the colors she likes right and so on. Thinking only about what his mother would want. I am happy that me and his wife walked next to him all of these days because my father has been a true walking example of Love.
The funeral will be in a couple of hours, I pray that God gives me the strength to be the pilar my father needs.
Sometimes we see the people that hurt us as our enemies, forgetting that hurt people hurt people. Forgetting that the people themselves are not our enemies. The devil is our enemy. We should separate the actions and sins of people from the people, if not the enemy will use it to steal, kill and destroy: John 10:10.
God is faithful, he made sure that our family made things in order right on time, praise the Lord.
Remember all of us sin, only Jesus lived without sin.
Are we going to allow sin to destroy families or are we going to live as God commands us to live?
Mark 12:30-31 (KJV) And thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy mind, and with all thy strength: this is the first commandment.
And the second is like, namely this, Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself. There is none other commandment greater than these.
I believe God wanted me to write this to help somebody or some family, I’m not looking for pitty or praise but just to obey God and help someone. I know that anything meant for bad God can turn to good for those that love him.
Genesis 50:20 (KJV) But as for you, ye thought evil against me; but God meant it unto good, to bring to pass, as it is this day, to save much people alive.
Remember,
God loves you much❤️
Saludos Romy Ras
( The flowers in the picture are Tulips, my grandmother fell in love with tulips during her visits to Holland during her life 😊)
That must have been really hard on you. Heartfelt love and sympathies to your family. God bless.
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God is great during trials and when things go good 😊 thank you for reading and your comment.
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Prayers for your family during this time. God works miracles! Prayers for you to be comforted and strengthened with God’s Holy Spirit. Be assured, you being there will be a blessing for many. God’s Holy Spirit will be present to touch hearts and provide spiritual comfort for those in need. Thank you for sharing this….beautifully written and heart touching!
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Thank you Rick, I appreciate your comment and that you read my blog post. May God bless you.
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How hard that must have been for you 😭😭. *many prayers* 😊😊
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God is faithful and can turn anything around if we believe in him. Thank you for reading and your comment, may God bless you.
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You have my deepest sympathies! What a wonderful man your father must be.
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Thank you for reading Patricia, yes he is indeed. May God bless you.
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I assume you are not a native English speaker, but your article is powerful anyway.
My husband’s nephew married an Asian girl he met in college. They both were Christians, but his mother was terribly prejudiced against her son’s poor little wife. I cannot say enough about how smart and dedicated the young Asian girl was, but that seemed to make no difference to the mother-in-law. She regularly gave gifts to her other children’s children, but she made it a point never to give gifts to the Asian decedents–even going so far as to tell them she did not value them, nor would she ever claim them.
I have tried to stay in touch with that side of the family to be sure they understand we are not all like her MIL. The pain of rejection is real, especially when love is offered and rejected.
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Hi Beth, no I’m not I’m from Holland originally however speak and write English daily. I understand your story and the pain that goes with it, God is great and can change any heart. Have faith in God, may he bless your family.
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Praying for you. Your Dad is one amazing man! May God richly bless and comfort your family.
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Thank you Pete, I appreciate your support. Yes my dad is amazing. May God bless you.
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I love your beautiful story of God’s love and grace in your grandmother’s life. Your are a shining light to your father as well. You father’s story is not finished yet! Keep the faith. So sorry for your loss.
Dwight
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Hi Dwight, thank you for reading and your comment I appreciate it very much. Yes God truly showed up, I’m happy for his love in our family. My dad is a wonderful man and I pray that God works on his heart. May you have a blessed day.
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God bless you for this
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Thank you.
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Thank you for sharing this. What a God-honoring story! May God comfort you and your family, especially your father.
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Thank you for reading and your comment, yes my father needs it. May God bless your day.
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I’m very sorry for your loss of your grandmother. It’s touching my heart when you asked if she understands the sin and believes in Jesus and she said ‘yes.’ Her love grew in loving your father and you was so wonderful. Thank you for sharing. May God’s comfort be with you and your family!!
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Yes God is amazing, when he shows up love flows. I’m happy she did as well. Thank you for reading and your comment, may God bless your day.
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Hi many months ago I subscribe to your blog but never really paid attention to it. I was until today. I loved what you had to say about your grandmother. I was very close to my grandmother before she passed away in 1999. I make a commitment this year in 2017 to read every one of your blog post. Thank you for writing please continue to write let the joy of the Lord continue to be your strength during this time of sorrow. remember let not your heart be troubled neither Let It Be Afraid.
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Good afternoon, thank you for your comment and your honesty. You may read what you like there is no must only if you like too. I was very close to my other grandmother as well but when she died I was not close by, I’m happy I was close by now when my other grandmother died. May God bless you.
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Anytime my friend.
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Our prayers and sympathy are for you and your family. God bless you!
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Thank you, may God bless your 2017
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My deepest condolences miss.
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Thank you Christopher, may God bless your 2017.
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Your very welcome and the same goes for you and yours. God bless!
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Prayers and heartfelt sympathies to you and family.
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Thank you, may God bless your 2017
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A beautiful memory you’ve written, prayers for your family. Thank you for sharing such a personal account to remind us how strong God’s love is, and if we stay faithful we can show his love to others. Praying for all of you.
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Thank you for reading my blog, God deserves all the praise. Yes indeed God’s love is amazing. May God bless your 2017.
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Praise God for your words. You were right to blog your story and share with others. May you continue to search the word of the living God and know you are loved. Blessings to you and your family during this time of loss. May you remember the last moments with your grandmother, it was in God’s timing. ❤ ❤ ❤
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Thank you for your kind words, I really appreciate them. Yes God knows the timing of everything, he is in control of every detail. May you have a wonderful and blessed day.
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Definitely it’s hard time. Just have faith in God. He will give strength to u n ur family. My Prayer is there.. God bless u!
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Thank you for your support Uma, I appreciate it. May you have a blessed day.
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Oh, how you’ve touched my heart. As I was reading my eyes filled with tears of joy. I’m encouraged by the love your father showed your grandmother. Love covers a multitude of sin. Praise God for you and your family. My prayers are with you all.
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Thank you for reading Chrystal and your nice comment. Yes God is amazing 😊
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My prayers and sympathies to you and your family.
I hope you are doing good.
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Thank you for reading and your compasión. We are good praise the Lord.
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Sorry for your loss. Many blessings during this most difficult of times. ❤
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Thank you Kev, may God bless your day.
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Sorry for your loss. May God rest your grandmothers soul in peace. From this you can see the power of having a forgiving heart. Hats off to your mum and dad. May the good memories forever remain in your heart.
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Thank you for reading and your kind words, may God bless your day.
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Yes, I understand as I held my grandmother’s hand as she transitioned at the age of 98 in 2009 – a beautiful experience, however, I miss her everyday!
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Thank you for reading, I know what you mean. May God guide your heart.
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Your story is proof that God works miracles. I think family issues are some of the hardest there are, but God is faithful and nothing is impossible for Him!
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Amen, thank you for reading. Have a blessed day.
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I know the feeling. My father passed away on december,24, 2014…😢
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I’m sorry to hear that, may God be with you. I think it’s never easy but knowing we have God is a good thing. May God bless you.
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Thank you for this touching post on being faithful and patient during such a time as your father went through taking care of his mother. Love endures everything
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Yes love and God sure do, thank you for reading.
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I thought of ping backing to your post on the same subject soon
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Great heartwarming story
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Dank u wel, groetjes Romy
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Thank you Bernadine
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Your welcome! ☺️☺️
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Many condolences on the loss of your grandmother. This month marks 3 years since my grandmother passed and I miss her still.
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Thank you for reading and your kind comment, I’m sorry to hear that. May God give you much strength.
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Sorry about your grandmother.
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Thank you Randy, I appreciate your comment.
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I felt the emotion while reading this post and I’m sorry about your grandmother. You’re a good person, God Bless You Always.
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Thank you for your kind comment I really appreciate it. May God bless you.
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I am sorry for your loss. It takes strength to write about such emotions. I admire the strength.
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Thank you for reading my post and your kind comment, may God bless you.
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What a special story of your grandmother and the changes that happened within your family before she passed. What a wonderful legacy she has left you. I am so very sorry for your loss, and I pray the Lord gives you grace and comfort for this journey. Also, I pray that one day soon, your father will come to know the good, good Father whom you now know and love. ❤
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Thank you for reading and your kind comment. Yes God is amazing all the time. Thank you for the support I appreciate it very much.
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touching post so sorry for your loss I too like tulips my mothers favorite was carnations she has been gone 5 years since she passed
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Thank you for reading. I’m sorry to hear that, it must be difficult every day. May God give you strength.
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A beautiful post. ❤
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Thank you Anna
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I am so glad your grandmother’s heart softened and accepted your father, you and fully appreciated his loving care for her, despite her not always being nice to him. This was a lovely example of your father “turning the other cheek” and still loving his mother. xo Robin
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Yes so true, God is the best 😊
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Great testimony to Gods work in a persons life. Praying for your fathers salvation.
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Thank you Heather I appreciate that. May God bless you.
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Beautiful and inspirational.
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Thank you 😊
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Hi, a very touching story..Your parents have proved that love can defeat any amount of hatred.You must be really proud of them.
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Yes thank you. May you have a blessed day.
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Nice photo ❤ ❤ ❤
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Thank you
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Thank you for reading 😊
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