I believe that for believers friends come from God and that everybody needs a good friend. To determine what a good friend is, who better to get wisdom from then God?
The bible is the book of life and we should use the wisdom of God in all areas of our lifes. Meaning we should also use it to determine who our good friends are. So Let’s take a look at what a real friend is according to the bible.
The bible says that a real friend sticks closer than a brother and that open rebuke from a friend is better than hidden love. That wounds from a friend can be trusted however an enemy will multiply kisses. Proverbs 18:24 and 27:5-6 it also says a friend should be reliable because an unreliable person will help you to ruin.
So there needs to be a close relationship, closer than you have with a brother or sister and there needs to be communication. There also needs to be honesty at all times in good and bad and you need to be open with each other. I believe in order for you to be honest and open there needs to be trust between the two friends
Then the bible says: that two are better than one because if one falls down the other one can help him up. And that friends will have good return for their labor together. Ecclesiastes 4:9-10. This means again closeness and awareness of each other, and willingness to help the other when one fails. It also means teamwork because no one can get a good return for labor from two if both don’t work well together.
It says that you should love one another the same way Jesus loves you. How does Jesus love you? He died on the cross for your sins while he knew you would sin again. Jesus gave his life for you and there is no greater love than that – so friendship needs to be the same – unconditional. Jesus says; you are my friends if you follow my commands. You are my friend because I tell you my business and teach you what I learned from my father in heaven. John 15:12-15. This meaning that both should know Jesus commands and each should teach each other what they learned from God. Both need to be believers of God and have a relationship with God and read the bible. How else can each one learn wise council from the other? Both should be wise and the only wise people on earth are the ones that get wisdom of God.
The bible also talks about a believer having a close friendship with an unbeliever. The bible says the following about this: Do not be unequally joked because what does good and evil have in common and how can light have fellowship with darkness? 2 Corinthians 6:14
The bible says that Iron sharpens Iron – meaning that both should be growing in the teaching of God and sharpen each other to do better. Proverbs 27:17
It says that you should choose your friends wisely because the wrong friends can lead you astray. Proverbs 12:26. How do you know if a friend is in God? I spoke about it yesterday: a three is known by its fruits a good three bears good fruit. A three can only bear good fruit if it is connected to living water – Jesus is our living water. If you want to read more about this – read my other blog called: are you lukewarm.
A friend should care about you and plead to God for you until tears if necessary. A friend should care where you go after life and should be your present help in this, he should be in constant prayer for you. John 16:20-21 a friend loves at all times and is present during adversity. Proverbs 17:17
Then it says that God has chosen us and made us his holy people. He loves us. So our new life should be like this: we should Show mercy to others. We should be kind, humble, gentle, and patient. We should not get angry with each other, but forgive each other. If we feel our friend has wronged us we should forgive them. Forgive them because the Lord forgave us. The most important part is to love each other because Love is what holds everything together in perfect unity.Colossians 3:12-14.
It then says that we should walk with the wise to become wise if not we shall suffer harm for walking with fools. Proverbs 13:20. It also says not to make a friendship with a hot tempered (angry) person because you will learn his ways if you do and get yourself into trouble. Proverbs 22:24-25.
When you are in pain your friend should come to accompany you to share your hurt and pain and to be your help and comfort. It also says a friend should treat you as they want to be treated themselves John 2:12 and Luke 6:31
And then it says do not be misled – bad company corrupts good character. So who you associate with is extremely important. 1 Corinthians 15:33.
Of Course this is the way a fiend should be with you, however it is also for you to evaluate yourself to make sure you are this kind of friend to them.
There is nothing better than doing things God’s way. I do believe that when we talk about man-woman friendships that this could create complications because as you can see friends should be very close. Outside of this being possible it might create understandable jealousy by your friends significant other if we talk about man-woman friendships and the other way around. However the above should be followed by married couples as well, because the best relationships are based on friendship.
Please know that it is very important to always pray to God and ask him about your friendships and follow his advise. God always knows best and wants the best for you, not always the easiest but surely always the best. Stay conected to God and Jesus at all times. If you are not sure ask God because friendship is very important and the best first friend you should have is Jesus then after that comes earthly friendships. Be blessed and be a blessing.
God loves you much❤️
Saludos Romy Ras